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Loving the Anxiety—Say Whaaaat???

Anxiety can feel like a monster making it's way to take over one's body & mind. How can one even get to a place where they engage in loving the anxiety??? That sounds bizarre--doesn't it? Most of us, humans, will try to run away from anxiety or distract ourselves with the hope that it will get drowned out by the music, the run,...[ read more ]

The Couple’s Most Common Problem

As a Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working on issues related to intimacy and bonding, the most common complaint I hear from clients is something their partner does that hurts them.  The thought process is something like, "If only my partner would change, I wouldn't feel this hurt and would be happier." It is true, most likely, that if the partner would...[ read more ]

Flab: Loving My Body in the Wake of Matriarchal Departure

My Grandmother departed her body this past weekend, at the tender age of 91. She was a woman of grace. A nurturer in every sense. She was beautiful on the inside and out. Her body’s imperfections had long been a source of comfort and beauty to me. Not because they looked like anything in mass media. Not because she manufactured...[ read more ]

My response to: “Do you love yourself?”

At a networking meeting I once had an acquaintance ask me if I love myself. This was, I thought, a provocative question. I feared if I shared that I don't actually love all of me, I would come across as not "enlightened" enough for this person's approval or standards. Love is so:   perfectly imperfect.  So here I was with this...[ read more ]

Hula Hooping, Intimacy and our Life Cycle

I don't know how to hula hoop.  It's a new and stimulating passion for me.Hooping has reinvigorated my discovery process, my learning process, my play with the unknown. When I was younger I was a dancer, a swimmer; I did a couple of triathlons, biked, roller-bladed, canoed on long camping trips, etc.. After becoming a mom and experiencing major body...[ read more ]

A Mind of Their Own: Our Breasts–From Objectivity to Functionality Part I

Written by Natashia Fuksman, MA Trigger Warning: Derogatory language regarding women’s breasts quoted. Note: All names and client details have been altered to protect each woman’s confidentiality and privileged information. Part One of a Four Part Series This is not an article about breastfeeding mothers. I also don’t have a five step plan that will resolve your authentic relationship with...[ read more ]

A Mind of Their Own: Our Breasts from Objectivity to Functionality, Part II

  Written by Natashia Fuksman, MA Trigger Warning: Derogatory language regarding women’s breasts quoted. Note: All names and client details have been altered to protect each woman’s confidentiality and privileged information. Part Two of a Four Part Series  Breast Scenes: Puberty Moving through puberty involves physiological shifts, like our bodies beginning to menstruate, hormonal increases causing emotional ups and downs and...[ read more ]

A Mind of Their Own: Our Breasts from Objectivity to Functionality, Part III

Written by Natashia Fuksman, MA Trigger Warning: Derogatory language regarding women’s breasts quoted. Note: All names and client details have been altered to protect each woman’s confidentiality and privileged information. Part Three of a Four Part Series Breast Scenes: Womanhood, Continued My very first experience of thinking about the complexity of navigating objectivity to functionality as a means of relating...[ read more ]

A Mind of Their Own: From Objectivity to Functionality, Part IV

Written by Natashia Fuksman, MA Note: All names and client details have been altered to protect each woman’s confidentiality and privileged information. Part Four of a Four Part Series Our Breasts: Big and Small… During a recent yoga class, my beloved teacher read us Yoga Sutra, 1.40. The sutra’s focus is on developing the rich and complex capacity to both focus...[ read more ]

Why Parent Imperfection is Necessary for Children

I am a therapist. Most of my clients come in to see me to deal with their growing and shifting identity as parents and beyond. My clients are incredibly caring people who are striving to thrive in their relationships with their partners, their children, their extended family and friends and within themselves. Recently, Sarah (pseudonym), came in and shared her...[ read more ]

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